the real truth about open relationships w/ Joel Kim Booster

Hi! Happy Friday!

So on the most recent episode of Tell Me Something Messy, my girl Joel Kim Booster and I have a messy kiki about orgies, coming out, and being in open relationships! I have been seeing a lot of convos online recently around non-monogamy and polyamory, but the conversations seem far more voyeuristic because it’s often a straight monogamous male host asking a straight non-monogamous male guest about their sex life, and rarely touches on the female partners’ feelings. As you know, I’m polyamorous (which if you’re new to my Sub, you can read about that here), and Joel is in an open relationship. So we decided to talk about our experiences.

Two things! First, this convo is not in anyway saying non-monogamy is better than monogamy. Please always do what works best for you and your partner(s). More importantly this convo highlights that being open or poly is not just about sex. There’s a lot more to it.

You can check out a clip from our conversation below. And if you’re a paid subscriber, there’s a new episode of my Substack exclusive pod “Hey Everybody” waiting for your ears! And also, eyes! I recorded video this week too! Also, for paid subscribers, you can watch the video from my tribute to Cynthia Erivo. It airs on Hulu tomorrow, but you can see it before anyone else does! :)

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OH, and I hope to see you on Monday night, for my next Substack Live, Messy Mondays at Night! 6p PT/9p ET! Free for everyone, and you can watch on the app or your computer. No guest next week, just you and me, so send your questions, or topic, ideas, or ask/tell me anything anonymously HERE. Okay now for the Cynthia video and Hey Everybody mini pod….